The Top 2 Mindsets That Lead To Greater Influence

Whenever you want to influence others to action – go on a date, buy your product, get your kid out of bed on time! – you’ll want to have a great presence about you.

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Because people are most influence by people with great presence more than they are by words.

That’s why I sent you 3 ways to have great mojo. Put them into practice and you’ll see improved life results.

Here are the top 2 mindsets – and mindsets create your presence — that lead to greater influence and getting more out of life…

#2: HAVE A KIND CURIOSITY ABOUT OTHERS

When people with great mojo are talking with you, they see things from your point of view., and that’s what you’ll want to do with others  Henry Ford said, “If there is any one secret of success it’s the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle.”

Approach others with a kind and curious mindset. Wonder what its like to be them today. Ask people how they’re day is going, then really listen. Be fully present so that the other person can feel it.

A helpful way to put this magnetic mindset into practice is to try what Emerson believed. He said, “Every person I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.”  So when you approach others, ask yourself:

  • What can I learn from this person today?
  • What is it like to be her today?
  • He teaches in school, what is that like?
  • What does she really care about today?

Here’s what people with great mojo have learned: the secret to being interesting is to be interested. When you show interest in them, they’ll find you interesting.

Someone once said, “I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”

When you have a magnetic mindset, you’ll generate a magnetic presence about you that people will like so much that they’ll want to buy from you, fall in love with you, and be your lifetime friend.

Now to the #1 Magnetic Mindset to influence others in positive and impactful ways…

#1 BE AGREEABLE

People with magnetic mindsets say things like, “I agree with you” and “I’m totally with you on that.”

We live in a hyper judgmental world, but people with great mojo know that God himself hasn’t even started judging people so why should they?

Instead of quietly sizing you up, people with this magnetic mindset agree with your point of view. Even if to them you sound like you’ve lost your marbles, they know the only way they can build a solid relationship with you is on agreement.

In today’s world, people seem to prefer being right over building great relationships and this is insane because you don’t even know if you are absolutely right. Things change all the time and new information constantly surfaces on topics you thought you had all figured out. Meanwhile, we sabotage relationships in our pursuit of being right – we justify, defend ourselves, and put others down to prop ourselves u0, all of which is bad presence and leads to not getting ahead in life.

People with great mojo do not use agreeing with others as a form of manipulation, but rather as simply thinking ‘that’s their point of view, which everyone has one, and it’s just how they see the world at this particular time and I’m going to agree that they have a point of view on this topic because my relationship with them is more important than our very small perspective on this topic.’

They may banter and tease you about your point of view – as all good friends do – but they know that to have good mojo, they must build the relationship on agreement.

So they don’t try to manage the mindsets of others. Instead, they’ll see the raw material that makes you YOU and treat you like your perspective matters.

Criticism and judgment never help anyway. Rarely does anyone ever criticize themselves, no matter how wrong they are. So they sure aren’t going to accept your criticism peacefully. Criticism puts people on the defensive, and they’ll respond in kind as they defend themselves because the criticism wounds their pride and arouses resentment. When you disagree with someone, they’ll disagree with you. When you criticize someone, they’ll criticize you. See the great book How to Win Friends and Influence People for a deep dive on this.

Abraham Lincoln was called one of the most perfect rulers ever by his general, and yet in his early days as a lawyer Lincoln blasted people publicly time and time again. One time he wrote an anonymous letter to the newspaper blasting and ridiculing a politician. Everyone in town raved and laughed. The politician found out who it was, jumped on his horse to find Lincoln, banged on his house door – yelling for him to come out, and challenged Lincoln to a dual. Lincoln was no fist fighter, and wanted no part of it, so the politician gave him his choice of weapons and time to train, which Lincoln did. On the day of the sword fight, they agreed to dual unto death, when their wives stepped in to stop the insanity.

Lincoln learned an invaluable lesson that day: never criticize another person, even when you don’t agree with them. He’d later say of the South, “Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”

So do you need to approach your boss? Talk to your coach? Do you want to ask the girl out for a drink? Want to make lots of sales? Are you wanting to make a new friend in a crowded room?

Use these magnetic mindsets until they become second nature and you’ll develop such a great presence that you’ll get the girl, make the friend, receive your promotion, make the sale and much, much more.

 

Much love,

aaron

Make Progress with a Magnetic Mindset

Leads to great mojo, likeability, and a bright future

To get where you want to go in life you need great mojo or energy, and it all begins within. Because you don’t have great mojo or energy, you generate it with your mindset. There are 5 magnetic mindsets in life that, if you consistently generate just one of them, you’ll get far in life.  Generate all five and you’ll discover a whole new way of abundant living.

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I gave you mindset #5 – Everything’s Going To Be Okay” – in last week’s strategy.  Today I’m giving you #’s 4 and 3. Apply them and you’ll not only be a likable person — people will rave about you.

#4  MAKE OTHERS FEEL IMPORTANT

Everyone wants to feel important. Everyone, at all times. So when you make people feel important – because they are important – they will feel it and want to help you get where you’re going in life.

  • Treat people like they are that special unwrapped Christmas present that you’re excited about. Approach the conversation like you’re unwrapping the experience with awe and importance.
  • Or try this: I always envision a sign around everyone’s neck that reads, “I’m important, please care for me.” Everyone wants to feel important: your boss, the homeless, the person you admire. Everyone. The sign serves as a trigger for me to treat them so.
  • Make the conversation about them. Treat them like they are the only person in the world. It’s what I do before I get up to speak to a crowd of thousands. I think to myself, “I love this audience.  They are important. I want to serve them.” I do the same when I walk up to an individual.
  • People with this magnetic mindset want to see others succeed and do well. They’re there for you and make you feel important. They remember your name, get you a birthday card, smile at you, greet you with enthusiasm, and give you nice nicknames.Be a person with this magnetic mindset and people will love you.

 

#3 APPRECIATIVE/GRATITUDE

People with great mojo have the magnetic mindset of appreciation.  Have you ever been around someone who appreciates seemingly everything? They say “thank-you,” “I appreciated you’re effort,” and “I’m so grateful for this day.”  They are enjoyable to be around.

Philosopher William James said, “The deepest principle in human nature isthe craving to be appreciated.” That’s probably true. Everyone’s doing the best they can and they want to feel appreciated.

Think about it: if everyone wants to feel appreciated, what if you are the person who meets that need?

If you want to make progress in your relationships, job, team, and career… show unbelievable appreciation to others. It’ll never get old.  I’m not talking about flattery, which is like counterfeit money, and insincere, but a real and genuine appreciation that touches someone’s soul.

People with magnetic mindsets have even learned to appreciate their past, their family in all their dysfunctions, and their current circumstances – even while they’re trying to work their way out of their present circumstances.

  • They may have a plan to get rich, but they still appreciate life in the meantime.
  • They may have a plan to find the love of their life, but they still appreciate their time spent in the meantime.
  • They honor the struggle and appreciate everything around them.

While others speak ill of their parents and past, they’ve learned to find the good in their past and parents – consistently dwelling on the positives.  They’re like Benjamin Franklin who, when he was American Ambassador to France, was asked why he was so successful. His answer: “I speak ill of no man … and speak all the good I know of everybody.”

People who are always accentuating your positives and strong points, and then telling others the same, are enjoyable to be around.  They have great mojo. They’re positive and uplifting, and being around them makes you feel like something good is going to happen.  It’s their magnetic mindset. They’ve trained themselves to find the good and beauty in everything, and by doing the same you’ll uplift all those around you.

Anthony Robbins puts it like this: when you turn your expectations into appreciations your whole life changes.  

You can still expect greatness in all areas of life, just now cover them in appreciations. This’ll give you great mojo.  You’ll enjoy life so much more and people will enjoy you that much more.

Want more? Fill out the exclusive application to your best year ever – every year with personalized Champions Coaching here: Who Could You Be With A Champions Coach? Work with me and I guarantee you your best year ever — every year — or it’s free. It’s not about what it costs. It’s what it costs if you don’t.
Much Love,

aaron

The 5 Magnetic Mindsets To Have Great Mojo

Aaron's strategy of the week

You ever notice how some people have a great presence about them? You feel good around them, want to do business with them, fall in love with them, and want to be their friend. Some call this “presence” about people “mojo.”  You aren’t born with great mojo, you develop it – and there are 5 magnetic mindsets to get this great mojo.

In this strategy of the week I will show #5 . Apply it and you’ll find more people who want to be around you, do business with you, fall in love with you, promote you, and want to be your friend.

When people talk about mojo, sometimes they say you need to have the following:

  • Great body language
  • Make eye contact
  • Give firm handshakes.

And while all that has it’s place, the most important component of great mojo is your mindset – because mindset creates your energy and your energy is what people “sense” when they are around you.

Your mindset leads to everything else.  Get the mindset right and then the eye contact, handshakes, and body language will take care of itself.

Physicists tell us life is all energy.

  • Your body is energy
  • The kitchen table is energy
  • Your car is all composed of energy
  • The trees outside: energy

Life is all made up of energy. This is very important because your energy comes from your mindset and that leads to what kind of mojo you have and how others feel about you.

You feel the way you do around people because of the energy they bring to the room. Some bring negative energy and we say “they sure are grumpy today.”  We’ve all been in a grumpy mood. Other’s bring good energy to the room and we say, “Wow, what is it about them that I like?” They’re buoyant and enjoyable. The answer: it’s their energy, and the good news is they’re not born with great mojo. They generated it with their mindset and you can too.

We all have a range of emotions – and when you walk into a room, people feelsomething.  The question is: What do you want them to feel about you? Here’s #5 of the 5 magnetic mindsets to make them feel great about you because of your great mojo:

#5  EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY
Always have the mindset that everything is going to be okay because that creates an energy that people want to be around.

Here’s what most people think about: What if? When they see the girl across the room they want to talk to, when they want to ask the boss for a promotion, and when they find themselves in a crowded room looking to network, they get caught up in a mental loop of “What if…?”

  • What if I go over to her and bumble, stumble, and mumble – and she makes fun of me, and I get embarrassed, and my whole world comes crashing down!
  • What if I go ask the boss for a promotion and she fires me on the spot?
  • What if I talk to the guy over there and he rejects me?

Your brain – because it’s survival software – automatically fires up the worst-case scenarios and this is natural for everybody.

People with magnetic mindsets that lead to great mojo, however, have trained their brains to feel secure about their life.  They have confidence and a gravitas about them. They like being in their own skin – and others like being around them because of it.

As Oscar Wild says, “You might as well like yourself because everyone else is already taken.” And there’s no greater impediment to getting along well with other people than being ill at ease with yourself. When you are true to yourself and at ease, it will put others at ease and they’ll feel good around you.

People with magnetic mindsets and great mojo always remember that everything’s going to be okay no matter what’s going on around them.

Want more? Fill out the exclusive application to your best year ever – every year with personalized Champions Coaching here: Who Could You Be With A Champions Coach? Work with me and I guarantee you your best year ever — every year — or it’s free. It’s never about what it cost if you do, but what it will cost your life if you don’t

 

Much Love,

aaron

The PATH to reverse engineer your life

Aaron's strategy of the week

I’ve coached enough people to realize all humans worry about their future. This isn’t a fun way to live life. And it’s definitely not the path to maximize your potential.

 

Instead of constantly worrying about the future, do this: think about the future you would love for your life, then work backwards to make it happen. The more clear of a picture you have of that future, the better. No matter what the naysayers say, you can have the future you want and in this strategy of the week, I give you THE PATH to make it happen.

I didn’t always know what I wanted for my future. Mostly I just wanted to play in the NBA. WhenI realized that wouldn’t materialize, I set my sights on becoming a restaurant and hotel owner – until I practically got fired from my dishwashing job in the restaurant!

Then I thought I’d be a major league umpire so I started umpiring little league games, eventually working my way up to all-star games. Then one day I made a terrible call and the entire town of loving people I grew up with treated me like I was Shrek.  Pitchforks, yelling, screaming, calling me names. It was horrible. I liked umpiring, but the insults hurt so I put the ump mask on and walked away.

But then I discovered THE PATH.  And since then, I’ve been able to marry my sweetheart, become a paid coach and speaker, and travel the world doing work I love. Here’s what to do…

First, get a clear picture of the future you want. What do you want in your future? Be as specific as possible. Write on paper the following:

  • Places you want to visit
  • Dream job
  • Money you want to make
  • Dream houseincluding those fancy curtains
  • Dream family
  • What non-profit you will give backhelp humanity
  • Legacy you want to leave
  • Kinds of friends you want

Second, visualize these specifics happening for you in the future AS IF they are already true for you in life.  There are all kinds of visualizations out there and many just make you feel good for a bit but don’t work. Use smart visualization because it works.  I created a free training video for you here: Smart Visualization.  If you are not using smart visualization, you’re leaving a lot of life chips on the table.

Third, reverse engineer your desired dreams via THE PATH. Here’s how: Draw two squiggly lines on a paper or note card.  Then write daily activities within the lines that you must do to achieve your dream future.  Above and below the lines write activities that sidetrack you. They may be noble and helpful activities or dumb and distracting ones. Either way, they don’t carry you to your desired future.

Here’s an example of THE PATH. Let’s say your dream is getting paid for doing work you love.  Write down everything inside the lines that get you there.  Write everything outside the lines that distract you from getting there.

Surfing the net — Worrying — Stuck in my head — Wasting time

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Hire a coach — write my goals every day — workout to keep my body healthy — be brave — believe in myself — creative visualization — meet with the right people — get spouse on board

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T.V. — dumb conversations — meetings — doubting myself 

 

Inside the squiggly lines is THE PATH. Walk that path every day. Do the activities in that path. BE THE PATH lol. Activities on the outside of those lines WILL NOT get you to your desired dreams.

Then post THE PATH on your wall, fridge, mirror, or wherever gets your attention to keep you focused.

Implement this strategy of the week and you’ll experience your best year ever – every year.
Want more? Fill out the exclusive application to your best year ever – every year with personalized Champions Coaching here: Who Could You Be With A Champions Coach? Work with me and I guarantee you your best year ever — every year — or it’s free.

 

Much Love,

aaron