The Top 2 Mindsets That Lead To Greater Influence

Whenever you want to influence others to action – go on a date, buy your product, get your kid out of bed on time! – you’ll want to have a great presence about you.

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Because people are most influence by people with great presence more than they are by words.

That’s why I sent you 3 ways to have great mojo. Put them into practice and you’ll see improved life results.

Here are the top 2 mindsets – and mindsets create your presence — that lead to greater influence and getting more out of life…

#2: HAVE A KIND CURIOSITY ABOUT OTHERS

When people with great mojo are talking with you, they see things from your point of view., and that’s what you’ll want to do with others  Henry Ford said, “If there is any one secret of success it’s the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle.”

Approach others with a kind and curious mindset. Wonder what its like to be them today. Ask people how they’re day is going, then really listen. Be fully present so that the other person can feel it.

A helpful way to put this magnetic mindset into practice is to try what Emerson believed. He said, “Every person I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.”  So when you approach others, ask yourself:

  • What can I learn from this person today?
  • What is it like to be her today?
  • He teaches in school, what is that like?
  • What does she really care about today?

Here’s what people with great mojo have learned: the secret to being interesting is to be interested. When you show interest in them, they’ll find you interesting.

Someone once said, “I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”

When you have a magnetic mindset, you’ll generate a magnetic presence about you that people will like so much that they’ll want to buy from you, fall in love with you, and be your lifetime friend.

Now to the #1 Magnetic Mindset to influence others in positive and impactful ways…

#1 BE AGREEABLE

People with magnetic mindsets say things like, “I agree with you” and “I’m totally with you on that.”

We live in a hyper judgmental world, but people with great mojo know that God himself hasn’t even started judging people so why should they?

Instead of quietly sizing you up, people with this magnetic mindset agree with your point of view. Even if to them you sound like you’ve lost your marbles, they know the only way they can build a solid relationship with you is on agreement.

In today’s world, people seem to prefer being right over building great relationships and this is insane because you don’t even know if you are absolutely right. Things change all the time and new information constantly surfaces on topics you thought you had all figured out. Meanwhile, we sabotage relationships in our pursuit of being right – we justify, defend ourselves, and put others down to prop ourselves u0, all of which is bad presence and leads to not getting ahead in life.

People with great mojo do not use agreeing with others as a form of manipulation, but rather as simply thinking ‘that’s their point of view, which everyone has one, and it’s just how they see the world at this particular time and I’m going to agree that they have a point of view on this topic because my relationship with them is more important than our very small perspective on this topic.’

They may banter and tease you about your point of view – as all good friends do – but they know that to have good mojo, they must build the relationship on agreement.

So they don’t try to manage the mindsets of others. Instead, they’ll see the raw material that makes you YOU and treat you like your perspective matters.

Criticism and judgment never help anyway. Rarely does anyone ever criticize themselves, no matter how wrong they are. So they sure aren’t going to accept your criticism peacefully. Criticism puts people on the defensive, and they’ll respond in kind as they defend themselves because the criticism wounds their pride and arouses resentment. When you disagree with someone, they’ll disagree with you. When you criticize someone, they’ll criticize you. See the great book How to Win Friends and Influence People for a deep dive on this.

Abraham Lincoln was called one of the most perfect rulers ever by his general, and yet in his early days as a lawyer Lincoln blasted people publicly time and time again. One time he wrote an anonymous letter to the newspaper blasting and ridiculing a politician. Everyone in town raved and laughed. The politician found out who it was, jumped on his horse to find Lincoln, banged on his house door – yelling for him to come out, and challenged Lincoln to a dual. Lincoln was no fist fighter, and wanted no part of it, so the politician gave him his choice of weapons and time to train, which Lincoln did. On the day of the sword fight, they agreed to dual unto death, when their wives stepped in to stop the insanity.

Lincoln learned an invaluable lesson that day: never criticize another person, even when you don’t agree with them. He’d later say of the South, “Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”

So do you need to approach your boss? Talk to your coach? Do you want to ask the girl out for a drink? Want to make lots of sales? Are you wanting to make a new friend in a crowded room?

Use these magnetic mindsets until they become second nature and you’ll develop such a great presence that you’ll get the girl, make the friend, receive your promotion, make the sale and much, much more.

 

Much love,

aaron

The PATH to reverse engineer your life

Aaron's strategy of the week

I’ve coached enough people to realize all humans worry about their future. This isn’t a fun way to live life. And it’s definitely not the path to maximize your potential.

 

Instead of constantly worrying about the future, do this: think about the future you would love for your life, then work backwards to make it happen. The more clear of a picture you have of that future, the better. No matter what the naysayers say, you can have the future you want and in this strategy of the week, I give you THE PATH to make it happen.

I didn’t always know what I wanted for my future. Mostly I just wanted to play in the NBA. WhenI realized that wouldn’t materialize, I set my sights on becoming a restaurant and hotel owner – until I practically got fired from my dishwashing job in the restaurant!

Then I thought I’d be a major league umpire so I started umpiring little league games, eventually working my way up to all-star games. Then one day I made a terrible call and the entire town of loving people I grew up with treated me like I was Shrek.  Pitchforks, yelling, screaming, calling me names. It was horrible. I liked umpiring, but the insults hurt so I put the ump mask on and walked away.

But then I discovered THE PATH.  And since then, I’ve been able to marry my sweetheart, become a paid coach and speaker, and travel the world doing work I love. Here’s what to do…

First, get a clear picture of the future you want. What do you want in your future? Be as specific as possible. Write on paper the following:

  • Places you want to visit
  • Dream job
  • Money you want to make
  • Dream houseincluding those fancy curtains
  • Dream family
  • What non-profit you will give backhelp humanity
  • Legacy you want to leave
  • Kinds of friends you want

Second, visualize these specifics happening for you in the future AS IF they are already true for you in life.  There are all kinds of visualizations out there and many just make you feel good for a bit but don’t work. Use smart visualization because it works.  I created a free training video for you here: Smart Visualization.  If you are not using smart visualization, you’re leaving a lot of life chips on the table.

Third, reverse engineer your desired dreams via THE PATH. Here’s how: Draw two squiggly lines on a paper or note card.  Then write daily activities within the lines that you must do to achieve your dream future.  Above and below the lines write activities that sidetrack you. They may be noble and helpful activities or dumb and distracting ones. Either way, they don’t carry you to your desired future.

Here’s an example of THE PATH. Let’s say your dream is getting paid for doing work you love.  Write down everything inside the lines that get you there.  Write everything outside the lines that distract you from getting there.

Surfing the net — Worrying — Stuck in my head — Wasting time

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Hire a coach — write my goals every day — workout to keep my body healthy — be brave — believe in myself — creative visualization — meet with the right people — get spouse on board

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T.V. — dumb conversations — meetings — doubting myself 

 

Inside the squiggly lines is THE PATH. Walk that path every day. Do the activities in that path. BE THE PATH lol. Activities on the outside of those lines WILL NOT get you to your desired dreams.

Then post THE PATH on your wall, fridge, mirror, or wherever gets your attention to keep you focused.

Implement this strategy of the week and you’ll experience your best year ever – every year.
Want more? Fill out the exclusive application to your best year ever – every year with personalized Champions Coaching here: Who Could You Be With A Champions Coach? Work with me and I guarantee you your best year ever — every year — or it’s free.

 

Much Love,

aaron

Smart Visualization Gets Results

The Smart Guide to Smart Visualization

Jim Carrey, Kerri Walsh and Misty May-Treanor, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Dr. Biasiotto (University of Chicago), and thousands of other people are finding success and getting life results, not because they were originally or extraordinarily smart or extra tough, but because of smart visualization.

Neuroscience is showing us just how powerful the mind is, and the aforementioned people used the power of the mind in smart visualization to become extraordinary. In this conversation, I’m going to show you how to get your own results via smart visualization.

So pick a result you want for your life.

Got it? What is it? Don’t read on until you pick one because in this post I will help you move it from a wish to a reality. I’ll do this by giving you a step-by-step solution via smart visualization.

In case you think I’m over-promising, Dr. Abigail Brenner, M.D., and psychiatrist notes visualization is well-researched, and a proven technique to help human beings transcend their perceived limitations.

What the heck does that mean?

It means you keep getting the same results in your life because of your own perceived limitations. It’s why…

  1. Children act like their parents
  2. People stay in bad relationships and never get to find the love of their life
  3. Employees never breakthrough to the next level of their dream work  
  4. The middle class believes in the lies about the middle class

Because the brain only knows what it knows.

It’s like fleas in a bucket. They’ll jump out all day until you put a lid on it. After hitting the lid so many times, they adjust their jumps. Now take off the lid to their freedom to jump wherever they want in life and guess what happens? They keep jumping at the same height as if the lid is still on. Why? Because they’ve conditioned themselves into a limitation!

Your brain is bigger than the flea’s brain, but you’ve been conditioned by your parents, schools, politicians, religion, and now your own self-limiting stories that become self-fulfilling prophecies.   

Smart visualization is your way out.

Brenner says, “We all operate from our own individual point of view or perspective: a reality with which our mind feels comfortable. By realizing that we can consciously and actively alter our point of view through visualizing the desired outcome, we have an opportunity to shift perception in reality.” (Psychology Today)

In sum so far: you are where you are in life because of conditioning and self-imposed limitations, but you can breakthrough to become anyone and do anything via visualization.

You have desired outcomes and you can use smart visualization to reach them. Unfortunately, too many of us spend our lives deceiving ourselves in dumb visualization (DV). There are all kinds of DV’s:

  1. Confused DV: Seeing what you want but without clarity. This confuses the brain which keeps your life stuck year after year. But there is a way to get 100% clarity about anything: Clarity Strategies to get 100% Clarity about anything.
  2. Wish-mode DV: Seeing what you want, but it remains a wish. Wish-mode gets you excited every January 1st but leads to mild depression as you watch others reach their desired outcomes while you keep making the same New Year’s Resolutions year after year.
  3. Deck-of-cards DV: Seeing what you want, but not believing you can get it because it’s just not in the deck of cards.
  4. Modesty DV: Seeing what you want but not believing you should want more, that it’s bad to want more, and that you should just be grateful for where you are in life. In response to this, let me briefly say: Modesty is not the same as humility. And if you don’t want more, grow more, and become more, you can’t help as many people. Modesty is a form of selfishness.

There are other dumb visualizations, but I want to get you results in this post. So let’s move to smart visualization so that you can get your desired outcomes.

What I’m about to show you is not magic, but the power of your brain and thoughts. As you know, we live in a thought universe and you become what you repeatedly think. Or, more accurately, you draw into your life that which you repeatedly focus on.  Hey, it was the great Bruce Lee who said, “As you think, so shall you become.” Many others have said the same thing in different ways. 

The idea behind smart visualization is this: you attract into your life what you continually think about with positive expectation because what you think about with intensity gets into your emotions and how you feel leads to your actions – and your actions produce the results you see in your life.

There are other ways to get results, but smart visualization is a powerful way to get them too. Very powerful.

Jim Carrey knew this and, so, used smart visualization. Before he blew up and made it to the top, he wrote himself a fake check for $10 million for “acting services rendered,” dated it for 1994, and carried it in his wallet for daily inspiration. Most nights he drove up a mountain and overlooked LA while he visualized the check coming true for his life (desired outcome). In 1994, Carrey learned he would reap exactly $10 million for his role in Dumb and Dumber… on the exact day he dated it in 1994.

Kerri Walsh and Misty May-Treanor form the most successful female beach volleyball duo in world history, gaining three Olympic gold medals. They say, “A lot of what we do is visualization.” (USA TODAY). They attribute a lot of their success, gold medals, sponsorships, money, houses, and wins to visualization! 

Arnold Schwarzenegger credits the power of visualization to become the most successful bodybuilder in history. Then he gives the same credit to his ability to become a Hollywood star and then the 38th governor of California. He says, “It’s the same process I used in bodybuilding: What you do is create a vision of who you want to be — and then live that picture as if it were already true.”

The list of people who use what I call smart visualization goes on. 

If you want to add yourself to that list, then today you can. I’ve created the Smart Guide to Smart Visualization and I’m giving it away free. I used to hang it up in my house, which I recommend, but I now have it memorized.  I also use it to coach people to peak performance and 10x life results.

Download The Smart Guide To Smart Visualization

So think about your goals and then use smart visualization for each one. You’ll speed up the process of getting your desired outcomes in life. Again it’s not magic. It’s the power of your brain in a thought universe.

A professor at the University of Chicago, Dr. Biasiotto, tested visualization on people by splitting them into three groups and having them shoot free throws. He wrote down how many free throws each person and group made.

  • Then he told group one to practice free throws every day after that for an hour.
  • He told the second group to not shoot any free throws, but only visualize making free throws every day after that for an hour.
  • He told the third group to do nothing.

After one month, he brought the three groups back in and tested them again.

The first group – the ones who practiced shooting free throws – improved by a nice 24%

The third group – the ones who did not do anything — did not improve at all.

The second group – the ones who only visualized — improved by 23%.

That group improved 23% without even touching a basketball!

It’s smart visualization. And it’s not just for the Sylvester Stallone’s, Jim Carrey’s, Olympians, and Arnold Schwarzenegger’s of the world.

Smart visualization gives you access to your desired outcomes.

 

SMART TIP: There are optimal times to get the best results from smart visualization

You can use it at any time during the day, but know that your brain is most receptive to suggestion when you are at the alpha level of mind, which is a brain wave frequency when you go from beta or waking consciousness to alpha states of mind. That’s lingo for it works best when you’re in a relaxed, meditative, or just waking up from bed state.

Smart visualization will get you where you want to go. You can go through life without it, but you’ll never maximize your potential or have the resources to serve others in ways that would help change the world on a scale that you otherwise could. Limitations exist in the mind. If you want something more in life, use smart visualization to lift you out.

I explain it in the video here:

You can also get the free smart guide to smart visualization here: 

Smart Guide To Smart Visualization

Either way, I’m here to help. All the best to you. Much love.

The ULTIMATE Success System To Get You Further, Faster

The 5-step plan to more of what matters most to you

Most everyone wants make it to the next level of her life, but not everyone knows how. The person may know that it takes determination, grit, and a plan, but she don’t know what kind of plan works best to help her move further, faster. Enter the ULTIMATE Success System.

 

This creates a lot of confusion, quitting on herself, and fits and starts. It pains me to see that and I see it way too often. So I’d like to help. What I’m giving you today is the ULTIMATE Success System. Sounds like an infomercial, I know, but it’s true.

It took me over 15 years of reading, speaking, learning, coaching, and training to put this ULTIMATE Success System together. (Yes I’m a slow learner, but I finally got it and I’m so glad I did). This success system is going to change your life. It will give you rich success.  It will improve your life and business in every possible way if you let it.

It’s a success system that will:

  • Give you clarity about what to do next
  • Boost your confidence in doing the next big thing
  • Serve as your blueprint to accomplish your dreams
  • Keep you committed to follow through on your goals
  • Give you the courage to make stuff happen

If you can’t tell by now, let me be explicit: I’m really excited about this success system and what it can do for your life. There are quite a few out there and many of them are worthwhile. This is the ULTIMATE success system because it combines the best that have come before it.

The system reveals the 5-step process to achieve anything in the most effective manner. It accelerates your movement and shaves off the normal time it would take for you to accomplish your goals. Watch the video now to implement the first step.

Until next time, keep living on purpose with your life purpose and showing much love to yourself and those around you.