If you don’t apply these 5 tips, then you’ll never get more of what’s available to you. You already know there’s more available for you – whether it’s friendships, riches, kindness, generosity, growth, love, or passion – and you’re not getting it. As you begin applying these 5 tips, you’ll notice more of what you need flowing straight into your life.
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- Embrace the law of abundance. Reject the law of scarcity. The law of abundance means there is enough to go around. It means when you’re happy for others when they get more, somehow more flows into your life too — especially good growth friends.
- Give yourself permission to prosper in all good things. Many will tell you to suppress your desire for more, that the problem just is your desire for more. I’ll say two short things about this:
- Just because someone says there’s a problem, it doesn’t mean there’s a problem. Maybe the person’s assumptions about reality creates boundaries where there really aren’t any, like in the 9-dot-game from the previous post. We’re all biased.
- The truth is you are hardwired for more. Manage more, yes. Suppress it, no. Give your desire for more laser focus, to do what matters most – most of the time. Unless people follow tip #1, others won’t give you permission to prosper, so go ahead and give yourself permission.
- Tell yourself a better story every day. As with the 9-dot-game I showed you in the previous post, you assume a boundary on your life where there is none. If you’re not getting more of what you need, it’s directly tied to a story you’re telling yourself in your head about how you fit into life:
- My marriage has stalled. More for my marriage seems impossible.
- Being rich isn’t for me. It’s for rich people.
- I’ll never have as much peace and purpose as my colleague.
- More time to fulfill my passions is a pipe dream
The 9-dot-game is a metaphor to help you think differently about the story you’re telling yourself about yourself everyday. You may have placed imaginary boundaries around the edge of the dot array in the 9-dot-game – around your life and work.
You want to attain more of whatever you want? There are assumptions – unspecified barriers – in your self-talk about yourself that you must first identify and give the boot.
Try this instead: begin each day with a mental picture of your best day. Each room you walk into, think about what your best story would be like in that room. Then live that story.
- Remind yourself that it’s rarely the problem that’s the problem. People tend to think the problem keeping them from getting more of what they need is something “out there,” whether political, economical, or the boogie man. But you could be defining the problem incorrectly. If this is the case, then no matter what solution is attempted, it will not solve the real problem.
Stephen Covey gives sharp insight into this when he says, the way you see the problem is the problem. As strange as it sounds, it’s not the problem itself in the 9-dot-game that’s the problem. That would only be true if you:
- Did not have clarity about the question
- Did not have clarity about how to get a solution
- Did not understand what the goal or solution looks like
But the problem was clearly understandable, there was a clear goal, and all the necessary information was given to solve the problem. You were even told when the problem will be solved.
The same goes for having clarity about what you need in life. You know the question – What do I need? You also know when you have it.
If you remain unaware that the problem just might be the way you’re looking at it, you will dig in your heels, thicken your pattern of thought, and always wonder why you can’t get more of what’s available in the world.
You’ll buckle down with more intensity, then eventually charge hard ahead with good intentions, but because you keep doing the same thing over and over again, you’ll get the same results. As you know, Einstein calls this insanity.
- Think bigger than the box given to you. Someone – parent, teacher, coach – gave you a thought box, telling you who you’re supposed to be and what you can and can’t do. That your life fits in the box. The beauty and simplicity of the 9-dot-game is that you have to think outside of the box to get what you want.
It’s not just what you think, it’s the way you think that causes you to miss out on the more available to you. It’s available. How you think and the size of your thinking plays a huge role in finally getting it.
It’s like the two fishermen out standing on the riverbank. One fisherman caught many fish – small ones and big ones – but he kept throwing all his big fish back into the river. He kept all the small fish.
The other fisherman, curious at this strange behavior, went over and asked him why he kept all the small fish but threw all the big ones back into the river. It was a simple reply.
The one fisherman said, I only have a 7-inch cooking pan.
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